“Help” is a big word that needs more clarification. When you allow assumptions to get in the way, someone’s not getting the exact help they need. That someone can be a loved one, a friend, a co-worker or just about anyone you can think of…including yourself.
I gave a mini-workshop on Conflict Resolution a couple of years ago and one of the points I made was that assumptions are the most common cause of conflicts in relationships. Assumptions block communication channels (period). What about unfulfilled expectations due to wrong assumptions? The “you should have known” and “I thought you knew” statements are simply not life giving. Needless to say, things can spiral down to frustration and unhappiness.
The most effective antidote you can use against assumptions is to ask questions. Asking questions create connection. Asking questions help bring clarity that can make you feel safe, assured and at peace. Relationships is something you’re going to deal with for the rest of your life. Keep those communication channels open and resolve to avoid making assumptions for the sake of having a healthier relationship with the people in your life.
What assumptions do you need to clear out that might be affecting the health of your relationships?